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I remember as a Kid having to look up things up the good old way—alphabetically! Lol
9. Write things by hand.
Could you imagine if you walked into a job interview and gave the manager a hand-written resume or if you turned in a hand-written thesis to a college professor-I’m pretty sure you’d be laughed at! I was one of those kids that were on the cuff of the technologic evolution. When I first started usinf computers, MS-DOS was the operating system! But as soon as windows became prevalent, computer generated content became the status quo. I remember being 8 or 9 years old and teachers already requiring that essays be typed.
8. Cassette tapes and VHS.
I would say anyone born after 1995 or so, never knew a time when these existed. Remember when you had to set the time on your VCR because if you didn’t you couldn’t record anything!
7. Record music and music videos on Cassettes/VHS tapes
I remember when you liked a song so much, you’d wait all day until they played it on the radio or on MTV (back in the day, when it actually broadcasted music!) and if you wanted to have it to listen to it later, you’d have to record it! Now there are so many places like iTunes or Youtube where you can get instant access to music, that stalking the radio is no longer necessary,
6. Floppy disks
I recently came a cross a floppy disk that belonged to me back from when I was a sophomore in high school and it reminded me that in the last 9, 10 years, the ways of carrying files have dramatically changed. Floppy disks were the primary way of transporting data back but that that has definitely changed-- they don’t even make computers with floppy drives anymore and doubt they have for at least 6 years. After floppies, CDs were briefly popular but now everything is either transmitted electronically or via Jump drive. I’m not easily impressed but I must say Bluetooth technology is one amazing thing!
5. Purchase/make CDs
With the advent of Mp3 players, portable CD players are basically obsolete. Sometimes I make CD players for the car but it it much easier to upload a whole bunch of playlists to your ipod and connect your ipod to FM transmitter.
4. get lost
I try to figure out how I got around prior to services like GPS and google maps…and I honestly can’t remember. I now use google maps or hopstop for traveling nearly everywhere..I even use the street view option to scope out the location prior to going! It makes me a bit weary that I’m not as inclined to venture out without assistance as I once did. .
3. play outside
Many health organizations have attributed the growth in childhood obesity and subsequently early onset diabetes partially to significant decreases in activity. With video games, the internet, 1000 channels on cable, etc..more and more kids are leading a sedentary indoor type of lifestyle instead of running around and being active outside or on playing fields. (seeshhh, I just felt like I had to give one of my lectures lol)
2. spend more time face to face/personal interaction
There are so many examples of this --Employers use to say “come in and we can see what we can do”..now it’s “email me your resume” or “please fill out our online application” or take a loook at our overly-textulalized society .When the chance to make face to face contact is taken from us, so is our ability to make a personal impression. We could also get into the realm of online dating here but that’s like a whole other blog!
1.Employ human beings
Personally sometimes I like automation, but the ugly truth about automation is that the more of it there is , the less actual people are being employed. Recently, CVS has started to use only self-checkout and believe me, the old ladies with bad eyesight and a million coupons are none too happy about it !
*ADDEDUM: Wikipedia can also be added to this list.
BONUS: remember when very few people used Apple product because it was seen as sub-par?!. ..yea, we all know how that eventually tuned out!
..Ok, hate is an exaggeration. So, “have issues with” is a better term. So here's the story--I used to talk to a guy several months back but for various reasons that I will talk about below, nothing ever really transpired between us. He was a nice guy and we did have amicable conversations, but witty repartee does not a relationship make. Forming a relationship takes time and effort and It seemed like he didn’t have much of any, which is a red flag in my book for a couple of reasons, #1. This was already happening and we’d only know each other a few weeks, so I can only imagine it would be even more of an issue if we even made it to the stage where we were considering a relationship and #2. I know that if a guy REALLY wants to see you, the only thing that could stop him is a bullet!
In the beginning when we were actively speaking, I waited to see if he’d ask me out and I even dropped hints that I felt we should. While he acknowledged that he looked forward to taking me out, it never gave into fruition. Rather early on I resigned myself to the fact that this was probably going nowhere since he really didn’t seem to be active in pursuing me or showing me he wanted to be more than friends. I’d return his text to be cordial or if I was bored because by his efforts or rather lack thereof, he was proving to me he was, at best, an entertaining text buddy. No harm, no foul.
Anyway, the other night I was prepping for an important work-related event and out of the blue, I see a text from him. Needless to say, in the frame of mind I was in at the time, I was less than thrilled. I was already stressed out and I had a million things floating around in my head…the last thing I needed was number 1 million and 1! I just didn’t want to deal. Mind you, he already had not been on my list of favorite people since this was his attempt at contacting me after pulling not 1 but 2 disappearing acts all due to “a crazy work schedule.” Are you buying that excuse? Nope? Well. Neither am I! Believe me, I understand about having a packed schedule, but the truth of the matter is there is nothing wrong about focusing on your career but don’t expect others to wait for you as you do so.
At this point, I was fed up and told him straight out I thought it was for the best that we had stopped talking, He, of course disagreed with me, and apologized for not being there citing it was because of work (broken record, I tell you!). This time around, he also added another reason I hadn’t heard from him before which was that he was partially tying to play if cool because he had been hurt in the past and he was afraid of developing deeper feelings that I couldn't reciprocate and that he feared getting hurt again. I can appreciate the sentiment but I was still not 100% convinced. To top it all off, however, something even more unusual happened—finally, after talking off and on for MONTHS, he actually asked me out on a date(Insane, isn't it?)! I had to re-read the text like 3 times to make sure my eyes weren’t deceiving me. However, I couldn’t be sure if he genuinely wanted to spend time with me or it was just some last ditch plea to try to at least get back in my good graces, so I didn’t permanently lock him out of my life.
Whatever his motive may be, he did actually make an effort to step his game up...so maybe this time will be different? I don't know but I doubt.
That is not to say I completely disregarded the possibility he really did have a change of heart but the thing is while I was trying to be impartial in considering his offer, I couldn’t help but to think that, even if I decided I wanted to go out with him, there was a mental block that would prevent me from giving him a fair chance. The reality of it is—He was already tainted in my eyes. I can’t seem to overlook the fact that he has shown me that he has a propensity to drop in and out of my life so he already had a few strikes against him.
I ’m entirely open to the notion that I may be making a mountain out of a mole hill and some people out there may say “wipe the slate clean” and see where it leads with him. Then the question now is: Is that a wise choice?
What do you think--Would you be willing to give someone a shot despite the fact that they’ve displayed some characteristics/actions you didn’t approve of? Would you be able to overlook these things in order to proceed with dating them?
So, one of my good friend recently updated her facebook status and what it announced was attention-grabbing to say the least. For the sake of modesty, I won’t quote the status verbatim. But let’s just say that the update implied that while she was on a subway train, she witnessed an older man, umm…manually pleasing his female companion while their child slept in his stroller!. There is just so much wrong with this picture that’s its overwhelming.
New Yorkers are exposed to many things—some great, some not so great—and for the most part, we can deal. Some might say we have even become blind to the less glamorous sights of the city or even worse yet…we’re entertained by it. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve come across uploaded pictures or videos captured from cell phones of explicit things going on the streets and subways. What always gets me, besides the obvious graphic content, is that in the videos, you’ll just see many people going about their business like nothing is wrong even if the act is taking place only a few yards from them!. Are we really that jaded that we can casually brush off people using public transportation as their personal BOOM-BOOM room as just being “typical New York craziness.” Hmmm..I’d like to think we're a bit less callous than that!
That status update reminded me of a question about a similar scenario that I had posed to my best friend years ago. I asked him: if you saw two people having sex on the train car you were in, what would you do? What if there were kids around?
At first, he insisted that he joking and said: "I’d watch for a little bit!". Although not entirely convinced that he was kidding, I let him proceed with his answer, he shrugged and said: “Uhh, its not like anyone is in immediate danger so I don’t think I’d make that much if a deal out of it, I’d probably just move away or change cars. And as far as the children go, if they’re not mine..its not my responsibility to shield them from whatever may be happening—its their parent’s”
I don’t know exactly how I thought he would respond but I at least expected him to be less nonchalant--he responded as if I just asked him about the weather! I guess I was hoping he be a bit more incensed and do something more…proactive. But then to really think about it, I guess it wasn’t realistic to think that someone would charge in there to pull the two apart as if they were the prudence police. Frankly—I don’t know if I would be bold enough to do that myself—possibly if I was in a group, I would. My immediate reaction would probably be to get off the train at the next stop or maybe inform the conductor if the scene was really causing that much of a disturbance or public safety issue. As uncomfortable and disturbing as the sight is to me, I still can’t help but to feel as if I don’t have a right to intervene. Weird huh?
If you witnessed a stranger or strangers engaging in sexual acts on the bus/train you were riding, how would you react?
...We’re all familiar with the typical end of date play by play: the man gets out of his car and walks his date to the door. This is the point at which the man would attempt to kiss her. If that’s what she wants, it’s a mutual success. However, on the flipside, if she chooses to decline his advances, she is in the perfect position to give him a consolation kiss on the cheek or a hug because after that, she can coyly hurry off into the house, saving them both undue awkwardness.
I, however, live in NYC, the land of late nights and subways. Most people here don’t have a driver’s license, so dates here don’t always involve a car. If the “walk her to the door and try to lay one on her” scenario is eliminated, how do men try to steal a kiss from their fair maidens at the end of the night you may ask? Well , in my experience, a guy will usually say something like: “we should go for a walk” or “lets go somewhere quieter” ....all code words for "I want to take you somewhere more secluded so I can try to stick my tongue down your throat. "
If you're having great time and are already deciding whether you're going to change your last name or just hyphenate when you two get hitched, then Mr. super great date whisking you off for some liplocking time is a welcomed event.
However, if you're not that fortunate and your companion for the evening turns out to be a person, you'd much rather pay NOT to kiss you, you probably want the date to end as soon as possible and you feel nothing but anxiety and forebodingness at the prospect of your date possibly attempting to slobber you down.
So, what is a girl to do?
In this scenario, I can’t help but to think of a phrase Oprah always used to reinterate on her show: “don’t let them take you to the second location!” Oprah originally coined this saying for the situation in which a female is abducted. What it basically means is that the female should try with all her might to avoid being transported from the original location of the abduction to a second, usually more desolate place because if her abducter is able to get her there, she has very little chance of escaping unscaved. While obviously a bad date is not as dire as being kidnapped, Oprah’s phrase is still somewhat applicable. If you want to avoid the possibility of a kiss all together, your best bet is to try bring the date to an amicable close…before he even suggests going somewhere else.
Believe me, I understand that this is sometimes easier said than done, especially if you want to be as polite as possible and not just abruptly end the date. Anyway, this brings me to my next point: On 1 or 2 occasions, I have reciprocated with a kiss even if I really wasn’t that interested.
Before you get on my case, let me just explain that if you’re sitting with the guy and his arm is around your shoulder and you feel him oh so slightly pulling him towards you and then you see his hand coming up to draw your face towards his, short of making a run for it and then changing your number so that he can never contact you again, please enlighten me on how you can gracefully escape a kiss at this point?!
In my opinion, you really can’t. Its either you follow through with the kiss or as most of you are probably thinking—you can pull away. I’ve also been there and I can tell you that is one of the most awkward positions to be in ever—having to be next to a guy who you just dejected and then having to make small talk on the way back to the subway. Without fail, because the dating gods are laughing at you, odds are you two are going to take the same train home!
So, how do you get out of a kiss? Have you ever given a “pity kiss”?
I was perusing Datingish and I came across this particular post. If you didn't get a chance to read it, I'll summarize for you: the blog poster tells a story of a feamle friend of hers who was asked out by a guy. When it came time to pay the bill on the date, the guy asked her friend to go dutch. Not only does he do that, but he then uses a Groupon to pay for only his half of the date! I couldn't believe what I was reading...I mean, seriously, is this really what the world is coming to?
Okay, I know people will argue times are hard and while I personally understand this, it seems like nowadays its getting to be an [overused] scapegoat that people use to excuse themselves from following dating etiquette.
But anyway, lets backtrack once more to the post: seriously to use a coupoun ON A FIRST DATE is in ill taste! What makes it even worse is that he only used the coupon for himself so I'm sure that means he ended up paying close to nothing. I mean, If he was going to commit the major faux pas of using a coupon, why couldn't he at least mustered up enough manners to apply the discount to the whole check!
I obviously don't know this guy personally so I can't speak of his financial status or his views when it comes to the standards of dating, so I couldn't possibly figure out the reason why he thought using the coupon was an acceptable move. If it was actually a money issue, why hadn't he just picked a place that he could more readily afford. I know that If I were a guy and I asked a girl out, I would make sure I went to a location where I knew I would be able to pick up the check for the both of us if need be. Anyhow, on a lighter note, my male best friend who dishes out hilarious although sometimes all-too-brutally honest advice theorized that what probably happened was that halfway through the date, the guy realized that he really wasn't into the girl. So, as a result, he just decided not only to use the coupon but not to pay for her as well since at that point, he did not care too much what she thought of him because he probably wasn't interested in seeing her again. My God!, if this was actually the case, i don't know if that makes the situation better or worse!
Overall, I thought the whole article was laughable (not in the haha funny way, but more in the I have to laugh at the ridiculousness of something like this actually occurred type way) and even a bit disturbing. However, what really was eye-opening for me were the responses to the blog. But, on some level, I guess I shouldn't really have been that surprised because Datingish seems to be largely populated by people who have a more liberal stance on dating, dating non-traditionalists (DNT) if you will. Anyway, back to what i was saying, many of the responders saw no fault in what the guy had done and several even ended up attacking the poster, labeling her as pretentious or 'after a free meal'. I really didnt think she should have been vilified as she was. Wanting a guy to act in a gentlemanly way and offer to pay the bill on a date does not immediately warrant her being called a gold digger.
Honestly, a guy who offers to pay shows that he has has a sense of chivalry and decorum. Does that mean I think a guy who isn't willing to pick up the check is a horrible human being? no..of course not. I can't stress this enough: there is a HUGE difference between someone who is UNABLE to pay and someone who UNWLLING. If a guy is UNWILLING to pay for a least the first date or 2, like I said, I do not necessarily think he's a bad guy but more than likely he is not the guy for me because its an indication that our values don't match up. I am definitely a more traditional type of girl so I prefer a traditional guy who doesn't mind acting chivalrous. To me, especially on the first couple dates, its really about putting your best effort out there, so offering to pay the bill is a simple gesture that speaks volumes. Let me add that I have often gone dutch on dates esepcially if I know my date is stuggling financially, so it's not like I never make an exception. In those cases, I was okay with splitting the bill (or even paying the whole thing sometimes) because I knew that these guys, if they were more in a position to, would gladly pick up the check. The point being that the intent was there even if the ability wasn't. What absolutely boggles my mind is when guys, who do have the means to pay, are fundamentally and unapologetically against paying and/or have no intent or interest in paying for a date or worse yet, have the gull to do something as brassy as to use a coupon. Its like they're not even trying! This is admittedly quite a turn off.
It seems that nowadays, men who act like 'gentlemen' are antagonized or classified as being weak or as putting women on an [undeserving] pedestal. Treating women in a chivalrous manner does not in anyway make them weak or give women some kind of authority over them. If anything, those are the guys with power (I hate to even use that term because this isnt about forming a hierarchy!) because when a woman is made to feel special and taken care of, she'll basically do anything in return to show her appreciation ;)